At your home you can use the same expectations of the school. For instance, if the behavior expectations are, Own your own behavior, Work hard and make good choices, Learn and live with a positive attitude, and Show respect for yourself and others (OWLS), use them for home expectations as well. When talking to your child about the expectations at home use the OWLS language and put your rules under these expectations. For example “I noticed that you owned your own behavior by rinsing your dishes off and putting them in the dishwasher after dinner. You must feel proud."
For every transition that your child engages in at home, there should also be specific expectations laid out and contained within a expectations matrix. Transitions could include times like while eating, waking up in the morning, getting ready for bed, and doing homework. You should put in writing what it means to be Own your own behavior, work hard and make good choices, learn and live with a positive attitude and show respect for yourself and others. Check out the expectation chart, which can be edited in Word.
We must take time to teach behavior expectations and how to reach them. At home, take time on a weekly basis (or more often if needed) to review how to meet behavior expectations with your child(ren). Practicing these skills and behaviors in the setting is effective; for example practice how one should do homework without distractions. You can also use role playing and talk through “what if” scenarios with your child.
Create a time/situation specific expectation matrix for your house that set out what the specific expectations are for each time/situation. For example, for chores you may display the following expectations: Owl your behavior - ask for help if needed or help without being asked; Work hard and make wise choices - focus and stay with it until completed; Learn and live with a positive attitude - complete chores without whining; Show respect for yourself and others - complete shores on time. Don't forget to reward for meeting the expectations! Check out a sample at home behavior matrix as well as the corresponding reward chart.